Stop Faking it ! Sexual Partner knows if you’re Really Satisfied: Study

Next time you think of boosting your partner's ego by faking an orgasm, then think again!  A new study proves that your sexual partner knows  when you're pretending.

 Studies in the past have estimated that most women fake orgasms at some point in their sexual lives for the sake of their relationship, their own insecurity and above all to feel sexually excited.  But researchers at the University of Waterloo claim that there is no point in faking it as the partner can easily identify when the moaning and groaning is false.

The study highlights that both men and women are equally aware of their partner's level of sexual satisfaction. Led by Erin Fallis, PhD candidate, and co-authors Professor Uzma S. Rehman and Professor Christine Purdon in the Department of Psychology at Waterloo, the researchers see sexual communication and ability to recognize emotions as key factors in estimating a partner's sexual satisfaction.

"We found that, on average, both men and women have fairly accurate and unbiased perceptions of their partners' sexual satisfaction," lead author Fallis said in a statement. "We also found that having good communication about sexual issues helped participants to understand their partners' sexual satisfaction. However, even if sexual communication was lacking, a person could still be fairly accurate in gauging his or her partner's sexual satisfaction if he or she was able to read emotions well."

The study was based on 84 couples that were part of a large study on sexual functioning and satisfaction. For the study, the partners were separated and each of them was interviewed on levels of commitment, relationship satisfaction, sexual satisfaction, sexual communication and also their ability to recognize emotion.

According to the psychologists, couples in a sexual relationship develop a sexual script- guidelines for sexual activity.

"Over time, a couple will develop sexual routines," said Fallis. "We believe that having the ability to accurately gauge each other's sexual satisfaction will help partners to develop sexual scripts that they both enjoy. Specifically, being able to tell if their partners are sexually satisfied will help people decide whether to stick with a current routine or try something new."

The researchers further plan to investigate the impact of having more or less accurate perception of partner's sexual satisfaction over time in long term relationships.

The study was reported in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour.